A note To PONDER Upon

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In the name of ALLAH, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalamu’alaikum w.b.t ( peace be upon you).

Dear beloved and respected Brothers and Sisters of ISLAM (BASIS),

When some things are beyond our control, here’s something that you must NOT DO so as to be happy:

You MUST NOT decide how you think the world SHOULD be. You MUST make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave. Many times, such thoughts can bring you spiralling down into more unhappiness.

On the other hand, let’s say you EXPECT that:

Friends SHOULD return favours.
People SHOULD appreciate you.
Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
Everyone SHOULD be honest,
Your beloved ones or best friends SHOULD remember you in their do’a (prayers).

These expectations may sound REASONABLE.
But, often, these things WON’T happen!
So, you end up FRUSTRATED and DISSAPPOINTED.

There’s a better way strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences! For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:

“I WOULD PREFER “A”, BUT IF “B” HAPPENS, IT’S OK TOO!”

You prefer that people are polite…but when they are rude, it doesn’t ruin your day.
You prefer sunshine…but if it rains, it is ok too!

To become HAPPIER, we either need to:
a) CHANGE the world, or
b) CHANGE our thinking.

* It is EASIER to change our THINKING!
* It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your ATTITUDE attending to the problem that is the PROBLEM.
* It is not what happens to you that determine your happiness but rather HOW YOU THINK about what happens to you!

Wallahu ‘alam bishowab – Only ALLAH KNOW THE BEST!
Wassalamu bilkoir ajma’n.

DRAFTED IN 2001
-SSY (remain anonymous).